Extramarital Affairs - Dealing With a Suspected Infidelity

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Extramarital Affairs - Dealing With a Suspected Infidelity

Extramarital infidelity wreaks havoc on all relationships, even if it is only suspected infidelity, without any real evidence to back it up. Regardless of whether you are contemplating whether you should confront your spouse, or whether you are confused, but do not really know what to do next -- here is how you can deal with a suspected affair.

Get proof of extramarital infidelity

Going out on a limb, so to speak, and accusing your partner of having an affair is probably the worst thing that you could do if you do not have any proof to back up your feelings.

An unfaithful spouse may easily be able to explain away any signs of cheating that you notice, and if you let on that you think that they are cheating, a sneaky cheater will just be more careful in the future.

Additionally, if you confront a non-cheating spouse and come across in an accusatory way, you may alienate your spouse and drive them away from you, doing long-term damage to your relationship. However, if you are going to accuse your spouse of something as bad as extramarital infidelity, you should have proof beyond a reasonable doubt that they are, in fact, cheating on you.

Because many extramarital relationships start online these days, online fidelity investigations are the best way to acquire the facts you need either to reinforce your feelings, or to dispel any suspicions you may have about your spouse's fidelity.

Depending on the service that you choose to use, you may be able to pinpoint a cheating spouse's profile on online dating websites, or even catch them in the act of trying to solicit a new partner.

Get the support of an unbiased, yet trustworthy, friend or family member

Before you confront your spouse, but after you have proof of extramarital infidelity, consult with somebody -- a trusted friend, or a family member whom you respect. It is important that you try to find somebody who can be somewhat unbiased here -- for instance, do not consult with somebody who has always "had it in" for your spouse -- their advice may not be the best advice for you in this situation.

Confronting an adulterer can be very difficult, and in some cases, it can be dangerous. You probably know your spouse better than anybody does, but once you have talked to your spouse about what you have found, you are likely going to need somebody to confide in, at least for a while, and having a trusted friend on hand can help. Plus, it is always wise to have somebody around in case your spouse has a tendency towards violent behavior.

Dealing with extramarital infidelity is hard -- there is very little doubt about that. However, before you make a decision to confront your spouse about your suspicions, it's a good idea that you be sure that you have proof to back up your feelings, and that you have a trustworthy friend available to help you through the troubling times.

Copyright (c) 2009 Ed Opperman

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